GEP or Not?

Congratulations! Now that your child has been selected for the GEP program, what’s next for him/her? It might be an extremely straightforward answer for some parents but not so for some others. My opinion is, go for it. Reasons being: PROS: It’s a great confidence-booster. Your gifted child knows what “gifted” means and there is no better way to inform your child that he/she is really good at what he/she has been doing than being identified as the top 1% of the cohort in Singapore. A generally high self-confidence can lead to higher competency in everything else that the child attempts … Continue reading GEP or Not?

Why Shouldn’t You Scold Your Child for Their Bad Results

It’s easy to blame your child for the bad results he received. “Why didn’t you pay attention in class?!” “You don’t know and you didn’t ask?!” “What were you doing when the teacher was teaching?!” These might have been your … Continue reading Why Shouldn’t You Scold Your Child for Their Bad Results

The Importance of Hugs After Punishments

Hugs are forms of affirmation and affection for the child to feel loved. In the Asian context, the words “I love you” might not come out easily therefore making “hugs” even more important as an alternative to show affection especially after a harsh punishment. No parents enjoy punishing their children, but when the need arises, it is vital it is executed swiftly and with perfect orchestration. Firstly, it must be pre-warned that a punishment is coming,  but when the warning didn’t work, the punishment must be meted out. Once punishment is meted out, the child must always apologise for the … Continue reading The Importance of Hugs After Punishments

How to make my child smarter?

Don’t most of us want to know that? The answer is, fortunately, easier than we thought. Apart from good genes, we can make our children smarter by using the appropriate praises. Research has shown that those who believed that ability is fixed, doesn’t feel that they need to put in effort to score in a test, they believe they will get good scores just because they are born smart. Even when they have gotten answers wrong, they won’t bother to find out what went wrong or how to fix it because that will show their disability in being smart. Whereas … Continue reading How to make my child smarter?

Don’t Fall for “Assessments” Done on Your Child

Most of us won’t mind having our children assessed once in a while just to know where they stand relative to other kids. However, don’t buy it totally, especially if it is done at an enrichment center. The most recent case I’ve heard was an assessment done on a 4 year old boy. Parents wanted him to work on some Mathematics skills and chanced upon this St****** enrichment program. After some 20min of assessment, one of the conclusions given to the parents was that their son did not understand the concept of Place Values. Place Values?? Seriously? Did they seriously … Continue reading Don’t Fall for “Assessments” Done on Your Child