The Importance of Hugs After Punishments

Hugs are forms of affirmation and affection for the child to feel loved. In the Asian context, the words “I love you” might not come out easily therefore making “hugs” even more important as an alternative to show affection especially after a harsh punishment. No parents enjoy punishing their children, but when the need arises, it is vital it is executed swiftly and with perfect orchestration. Firstly, it must be pre-warned that a punishment is coming,  but when the warning didn’t work, the punishment must be meted out. Once punishment is meted out, the child must always apologise for the … Continue reading The Importance of Hugs After Punishments

How to make my child smarter?

Don’t most of us want to know that? The answer is, fortunately, easier than we thought. Apart from good genes, we can make our children smarter by using the appropriate praises. Research has shown that those who believed that ability is fixed, doesn’t feel that they need to put in effort to score in a test, they believe they will get good scores just because they are born smart. Even when they have gotten answers wrong, they won’t bother to find out what went wrong or how to fix it because that will show their disability in being smart. Whereas … Continue reading How to make my child smarter?

Motivate your child with this simple step

If getting your child to start working on their homework feels as hard as pushing a car on handbrake, you are not alone. Sometimes you just wish there is an “on-off” button that you can press so that you can just kick your slippers and slouch on the couch after a long day at work while your little one presses on till he/she is done with her task. Unfortunately, there is no such button, but there is, one special formula which you can adopt. Praise them. No, not the usual “Good job”, “Well done”, “Good boy” which you have been … Continue reading Motivate your child with this simple step

Does listening to Mozart really make my child smarter?

Unfortunately, the answer is no… The original study, where the whole “Mozart Effect” came about, wasn’t even conducted on children. In the study, 36 adult students were given a series of mental tasks to complete on three occasions. Before each task, they listened either to ten minutes of silence, ten minutes of relaxation instructions, or ten minutes of Mozart’s sonata for two pianos in D major. Obviously, the study found that students who listened to Mozart did better at tasks where they had to create shapes in their minds. They also were better at spatial tasks where they had to look at folded … Continue reading Does listening to Mozart really make my child smarter?

The number one thing you must do to help your child focus in class

REMOVE ALL SCREEN TIME. Many articles had talked about it, scientific studies had proven it, real anecdotes reported, but parents all over are still making this mistake in parenting. I assess children on a daily basis and have seen close to thousands of children, out of which, more than half had short attention span, were disruptive in class, and were not learning well. Whenever these symptoms are observed or are told to me, I will pop the question, “How much time does he/she spend in front of a screen in a day?” And I’ve had a 99% hit so far that … Continue reading The number one thing you must do to help your child focus in class

The number one question that parents ask that children can’t answer

This is most likely the all-time favourite question that parents ask on a daily basis, “What did you learn today?” I’ve heard it repeatedly from others and even myself every time I reach home, “Tell me about your day W, what did you learn?” And almost 100% of the time, or at least for most children under the age of 12, parents find themselves shaking their heads when they hear, “Nothing…”, “I don’t know”, “I learnt… (blank)”, “Ooh I played this (and that)… blah blah… (and they continue with a list of things that had happened to them, none of … Continue reading The number one question that parents ask that children can’t answer